Just as you ease into what you consider a "new normal" with a baby, they throw you a curveball and everything does a 180.
As we entered into April-May & June, this is exactly what happened. Except it wasn't Logan who was making the major changes.... it was mom & dad.
It became necessary for me to start working 14h+ days after a business partner & staff member walked away from the business.
Then, my husband needed to have hernia repair surgery putting him off work for 6 weeks.
Then, one of the clinics we were working at terminated our contract while I was on mat leave.
It would have been enough to deal with this stressful situation as a young couple.
But add in the lack of sleep, worries of a first-time parent and ..... to say it was tough to stay positive.
Not even in our worst case scenario planning, had this scene came to our minds.
But here we were.
And we don't run away when things get tough.
I am loving writing this year in review, because as I think over the lowest moments of 2018 here in January 2019, the personal and professional growth is so clear to me. So much good happens as a result of taking your lows, putting your head down and getting to work.
I went back to work not only at my clinic, but covering Jordan's too while he recovered from surgery.
Family and friends stepped up to help us out in the care of Logan.
Putting in the extra time at work forced me (and my partner) to prioritize where time was best spent, and allowed us to the freedom to hire people who wanted to work hard, and we're even better than us at certain roles! Focusing on hiring good, hard-working people led us to win "Young Entrepreneurs of the Year!" We would not have done that without the small set back as a catalyst for our massive 2018 growth.
Covering for Jordan in his clinic - a full role reversal from the 3 months prior - allowed us a glimpse into each other's lives. For him, it was eye-opening just how tough it can be to stay home all day. When you're away from the house you can start feeling like the other person has it easy - but it's not.
For me, I understood just how stressful it can be going from clinic to clinic, and being away from my new baby for full days.
This glimpse into each other's life was so important in our understanding of how we can support each other as partners.
Being forced away from a stable income meant trusting myself and my skills to build from scratch. It meant going all-in on something, rather than sitting on the fence. It was a blessing in disguise to learn just what we're capable of. It was a lesson in business to work through the emotions to not take someone else's business decision personally.
These three months were tough, and to be frank, I would never want to re-live them. I DO regret not being able to be present with my baby and missing important moments of his newborn life. However, I am forever thankful for the teachable moments of 2018, and for the massive growth that it afforded me. Sitting here, "safe" in January 2019, I am able to truly say I would not be where I am lucky enough to be, both personal and professionally. I've learned invaluable lessons about life that I will carry with me forever.
What were your teachable moments of 2018?
- Dr. Alli
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