Get caught up with Part 1 and Part 2
Once we came out onto the other side of the struggle -- our relationship was stronger, we gained clarity on what we want to do & how we want to feel each day and week and month, and we were able to gain some much-needed downtime with our now 6 month old baby.
As I moved back to more regular work hours, and Jordan returned to his normal hours we started to establish a routine. Looking back at the trial & error of establishing a routine with a baby, this is what I found:
Here's what didn't work:
- booking patients in at random times to try to be accommodating. I want to be there so badly for people when they need me that I will often put myself out. I was never OK with sticking Logan in the playpen and leaving him behind the front desk (supervised, of course!) and heading into the treatment room with a patient. It wasn't fair to Logan, to my staff, to my patient or to me. To get work done, it is better when Logan is not with me at work. I am a better doctor when all I have to think about are my patients.
- having Logan at Post Partum Fitness class. Originally, I had created this program as a way to work with Logan. And it was great! Until he started to move :) To give the highest quality classes to my patients and clients, he needed to start staying home.
Here's what worked:
- Having Logan with a family member or friend a few hours a week and adding treatment hours then.
- Adding Saturday Treatment hours.
- Working out in the morning so that I get home earlier.
- Using OTRmeals to support my nutrition because things are still busy.
- Being outside and having friends come to us to visit!
- Starting a 100 day movement challenge (more on this later).
- Doing a split shift whereby I go into the gym in the early AM, come home for 3-4 hours while Logan naps and then head back for the evening.
We still are in the routine that we established at this time, with a few tweaks! There are still things that I want to work on to feel more in control, and present.
I gained 37lbs while pregnant, and I was even more patient with my weight loss than I had anticipated! I had been on domperidone to help with breastmilk production which can increase appetite - and it did. Although everyday I found ways to get in movement, and worked to eat as well as I could it wasn't until summertime that I came close to hitting my pre-pregnancy weight. Once I was close - I was super motivated! I began a personal 100 days of movement challenge to stay inspired and followed the lifestyle eating principles I write about in my ebook "mindshift macros" -- the result? A total of 50lbs lost, eating that makes sense without restriction or fearing social situations and I'm back to where I left off in the gym minus a few skills I haven't practiced at all.
I love summer, and I loved summer with my family of 3.
- Dr. Alli