Get caught up with Part 1 and Part 2
Once we came out onto the other side of the struggle -- our relationship was stronger, we gained clarity on what we want to do & how we want to feel each day and week and month, and we were able to gain some much-needed downtime with our now 6 month old baby.
As I moved back to more regular work hours, and Jordan returned to his normal hours we started to establish a routine. Looking back at the trial & error of establishing a routine with a baby, this is what I found:
Here's what didn't work:
- booking patients in at random times to try to be accommodating. I want to be there so badly for people when they need me that I will often put myself out. I was never OK with sticking Logan in the playpen and leaving him behind the front desk (supervised, of course!) and heading into the treatment room with a patient. It wasn't fair to Logan, to my staff, to my patient or to me. To get work done, it is better when Logan is not with me at work. I am a better doctor when all I have to think about are my patients.
- having Logan at Post Partum Fitness class. Originally, I had created this program as a way to work with Logan. And it was great! Until he started to move :) To give the highest quality classes to my patients and clients, he needed to start staying home.
Here's what worked:
- Having Logan with a family member or friend a few hours a week and adding treatment hours then.
- Adding Saturday Treatment hours.
- Working out in the morning so that I get home earlier.
- Using OTRmeals to support my nutrition because things are still busy.
- Being outside and having friends come to us to visit!
- Starting a 100 day movement challenge (more on this later).
- Doing a split shift whereby I go into the gym in the early AM, come home for 3-4 hours while Logan naps and then head back for the evening.
We still are in the routine that we established at this time, with a few tweaks! There are still things that I want to work on to feel more in control, and present.
I gained 37lbs while pregnant, and I was even more patient with my weight loss than I had anticipated! I had been on domperidone to help with breastmilk production which can increase appetite - and it did. Although everyday I found ways to get in movement, and worked to eat as well as I could it wasn't until summertime that I came close to hitting my pre-pregnancy weight. Once I was close - I was super motivated! I began a personal 100 days of movement challenge to stay inspired and followed the lifestyle eating principles I write about in my ebook "mindshift macros" -- the result? A total of 50lbs lost, eating that makes sense without restriction or fearing social situations and I'm back to where I left off in the gym minus a few skills I haven't practiced at all.
I love summer, and I loved summer with my family of 3.
- Dr. Alli
Just as you ease into what you consider a "new normal" with a baby, they throw you a curveball and everything does a 180.
As we entered into April-May & June, this is exactly what happened. Except it wasn't Logan who was making the major changes.... it was mom & dad.
It became necessary for me to start working 14h+ days after a business partner & staff member walked away from the business.
Then, my husband needed to have hernia repair surgery putting him off work for 6 weeks.
Then, one of the clinics we were working at terminated our contract while I was on mat leave.
It would have been enough to deal with this stressful situation as a young couple.
But add in the lack of sleep, worries of a first-time parent and ..... to say it was tough to stay positive.
Not even in our worst case scenario planning, had this scene came to our minds.
But here we were.
And we don't run away when things get tough.
I am loving writing this year in review, because as I think over the lowest moments of 2018 here in January 2019, the personal and professional growth is so clear to me. So much good happens as a result of taking your lows, putting your head down and getting to work.
I went back to work not only at my clinic, but covering Jordan's too while he recovered from surgery.
Family and friends stepped up to help us out in the care of Logan.
Putting in the extra time at work forced me (and my partner) to prioritize where time was best spent, and allowed us to the freedom to hire people who wanted to work hard, and we're even better than us at certain roles! Focusing on hiring good, hard-working people led us to win "Young Entrepreneurs of the Year!" We would not have done that without the small set back as a catalyst for our massive 2018 growth.
Covering for Jordan in his clinic - a full role reversal from the 3 months prior - allowed us a glimpse into each other's lives. For him, it was eye-opening just how tough it can be to stay home all day. When you're away from the house you can start feeling like the other person has it easy - but it's not.
For me, I understood just how stressful it can be going from clinic to clinic, and being away from my new baby for full days.
This glimpse into each other's life was so important in our understanding of how we can support each other as partners.
Being forced away from a stable income meant trusting myself and my skills to build from scratch. It meant going all-in on something, rather than sitting on the fence. It was a blessing in disguise to learn just what we're capable of. It was a lesson in business to work through the emotions to not take someone else's business decision personally.
These three months were tough, and to be frank, I would never want to re-live them. I DO regret not being able to be present with my baby and missing important moments of his newborn life. However, I am forever thankful for the teachable moments of 2018, and for the massive growth that it afforded me. Sitting here, "safe" in January 2019, I am able to truly say I would not be where I am lucky enough to be, both personal and professionally. I've learned invaluable lessons about life that I will carry with me forever.
What were your teachable moments of 2018?
- Dr. Alli
P.S. if you want more insight into all things pregnancy & post partum join me LIVE on January 24 at Anchor as I sit alongside a panel of experts. Reserve your spot here -- it's free!
Is there anything that can describe the first year with your first child?
My husband and I welcomed our first son, Logan Cain Winberg on January 30, 2018.
I launched a brand new post partum health course.
Our business "ANCHOR" grew in so many ways.
and we won Young Entrepreneur of the Year.
I'll admit, I spent much of the end of 2017 worrying about what 2018 would look like -- running a business with a baby. So I'm taking stock on one of the most tumultuous years of my life.
I'm big on goal setting, and know that in order to launch forward, a review of past wins and teachable moments is critical.
In the past, my yearly reviews have only been done in my private, purple journal but as more and more of my friends, family, patients & clients become working moms I thought I would share my journey here in hopes it could help others with their journey.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I googled "how to be a successful chiropractor with a baby"
A world wide search brought up: ZERO.
So, if you're a health care practitioner, or really any independent contractor without the financial support of mat leave and you're thinking about having a baby, pregnant, or recently welcomed a new addition to the world... c o n g r a t s <3 and I'm here to support you.
2018 and the first year as a mom brought SO many highs, a few lows and I wanted to break them all down and review so that I can relive 2018 over and over again because if nothing else, it was a complete and total BLUR.
It can be so easy to look back on a year and think about all of the things that I didn't get done... but in reality some really BIG things got done!
If you've never done a year in review, I challenge you to do it so that you can look back and say YES GIRL, I've come so far!
JANUARY - MARCH 2018
At the beginning of the year, my husband and I welcomed two (!!) new additions to our family - 11 days before the birth of our son, we adopted a 2 month old puppy, Frankie.
You can read Logan's birth story here.
The first 8 weeks went exactly according to plan. He was covering both of my clinics (bless him), while I stayed home with the baby.
I had been planning to wait until 4 months post partum to launch a new course I had been working on, but I was so antsy to launch it to the world that I threw it out to the world at 2 weeks post partum and started the first sessions at exactly 4 weeks post partum.
I look back at this and still don't think I was crazy. Being able to get out of the house, support the health of other women who were going through the exact same thing as me (all the babes in that first course were 3 days apart!) and make a little bit of money was hugely helpful in the post partum physical and mental healing. The moment I stepped into lead my patients, I immediately felt at home. Being able to bring Logan with me and work was exactly what I had wanted to be able to do.
January - March wasn't easy with the lack of sleep, constant appointments and weekly worries about the health of a new baby.
Looking back on this time I am forever grateful for the support of my family and friends in this important time.
The Highest High: Welcoming Logan Cain Winberg to the World on January 30th, 2018
The Biggest Lesson: No amount of planning prepares you for a baby. But I am grateful I had people I was able to ask for help. My family, friends and colleagues continued support was everything I needed to get a tough & transformative time.
- Dr. Alli