Just as you ease into what you consider a "new normal" with a baby, they throw you a curveball and everything does a 180.
As we entered into April-May & June, this is exactly what happened. Except it wasn't Logan who was making the major changes.... it was mom & dad.
It became necessary for me to start working 14h+ days after a business partner & staff member walked away from the business.
Then, my husband needed to have hernia repair surgery putting him off work for 6 weeks.
Then, one of the clinics we were working at terminated our contract while I was on mat leave.
It would have been enough to deal with this stressful situation as a young couple.
But add in the lack of sleep, worries of a first-time parent and this new financial strain..... to say it was tough to stay positive is putting it mildly. We literally had conversations about having to put our house up for sale in order to weather this unexpected storm.
Not even in our worst case scenario planning, had this scene came to our minds.
But here we were.
And we don't run away when things get tough.
I am loving writing this year in review, because as I think over the lowest moments of 2018 here in January 2019, the personal and professional growth is so clear to me. So much good happens as a result of taking your lows, putting your head down and getting to work.
I went back to work not only at my clinic, but covering Jordan's too while he recovered from surgery.
Family and friends stepped up to help us out in the care of Logan.
Putting in the extra time at work forced me (and my partner) to prioritize where time was best spent, and allowed us to the freedom to hire people who wanted to work hard, and we're even better than us at certain roles! Focusing on hiring good, hard-working people led us to win "Young Entrepreneurs of the Year!" We would not have done that without the small set back as a catalyst for our massive 2018 growth.
Covering for Jordan in his clinic - a full role reversal from the 3 months prior - allowed us a glimpse into each other's lives. For him, it was eye-opening just how tough it can be to stay home all day. When you're away from the house you can start feeling like the other person has it easy - but it's not.
For me, I understood just how stressful it can be going from clinic to clinic, and being away from my new baby for full days.
This glimpse into each other's life was so important in our understanding of how we can support each other as partners.
Being forced away from a stable income meant trusting myself and my skills to build from scratch. It meant going all-in on something, rather than sitting on the fence. It was a blessing in disguise to learn just what we're capable of. It was a lesson in business to work through the emotions to not take someone else's business decision personally.
These three months were tough, and to be frank, I would never want to re-live them. I DO regret not being able to be present with my baby and missing important moments of his newborn life. However, I am forever thankful for the teachable moments of 2018, and for the massive growth that it afforded me. Sitting here, "safe" in January 2019, I am able to truly say I would not be where I am lucky enough to be, both personal and professionally. I've learned invaluable lessons about life that I will carry with me forever.
What were your teachable moments of 2018?
- Dr. Alli
P.S. if you want more insight into all things pregnancy & post partum join me LIVE on January 24 at Anchor as I sit alongside a panel of experts. Reserve your spot here -- it's free!
Is there anything that can describe the first year with your first child?
My husband and I welcomed our first son, Logan Cain Winberg on January 30, 2018.
I launched a brand new post partum health course.
Our business "ANCHOR" grew in so many ways.
and we won Young Entrepreneur of the Year.
I'll admit, I spent much of the end of 2017 worrying about what 2018 would look like -- running a business with a baby. So I'm taking stock on one of the most tumultuous years of my life.
I'm big on goal setting, and know that in order to launch forward, a review of past wins and teachable moments is critical.
In the past, my yearly reviews have only been done in my private, purple journal but as more and more of my friends, family, patients & clients become working moms I thought I would share my journey here in hopes it could help others with their journey.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I googled "how to be a successful chiropractor with a baby"
A world wide search brought up: ZERO.
So, if you're a health care practitioner, or really any independent contractor without the financial support of mat leave and you're thinking about having a baby, pregnant, or recently welcomed a new addition to the world... c o n g r a t s <3 and I'm here to support you.
2018 and the first year as a mom brought SO many highs, a few lows and I wanted to break them all down and review so that I can relive 2018 over and over again because if nothing else, it was a complete and total BLUR.
It can be so easy to look back on a year and think about all of the things that I didn't get done... but in reality some really BIG things got done!
If you've never done a year in review, I challenge you to do it so that you can look back and say YES GIRL, I've come so far!
JANUARY - MARCH 2018
At the beginning of the year, my husband and I welcomed two (!!) new additions to our family - 11 days before the birth of our son, we adopted a 2 month old puppy, Frankie.
You can read Logan's birth story here.
The first 8 weeks went exactly according to plan. He was covering both of my clinics (bless him), while I stayed home with the baby.
I had been planning to wait until 4 months post partum to launch a new course I had been working on, but I was so antsy to launch it to the world that I threw it out to the world at 2 weeks post partum and started the first sessions at exactly 4 weeks post partum.
I look back at this and still don't think I was crazy. Being able to get out of the house, support the health of other women who were going through the exact same thing as me (all the babes in that first course were 3 days apart!) and make a little bit of money was hugely helpful in the post partum physical and mental healing. The moment I stepped into lead my patients, I immediately felt at home. Being able to bring Logan with me and work was exactly what I had wanted to be able to do.
January - March wasn't easy with the lack of sleep, constant appointments and weekly worries about the health of a new baby.
Looking back on this time I am forever grateful for the support of my family and friends in this important time.
The Highest High: Welcoming Logan Cain Winberg to the World on January 30th, 2018
The Biggest Lesson: No amount of planning prepares you for a baby. But I am grateful I had people I was able to ask for help. My family, friends and colleagues continued support was everything I needed to get a tough & transformative time.
- Dr. Alli
I began pushing at about 1am.
The nurse had me pushing 3 times for ten seconds with one breath in between.
Insert CrossFit WOD cliche here - but it truly was!
My midwife asked me if I wanted to have a mirror at the end of the bed to watch, and I said yes.
I'm so glad that 1) I said yes and 2) I had the epidural ... the process of watching Logan be born was absolutely incredible. We could see his blonde head of hair right away!
His head remained in the same position for what seemed like forever. I couldn't really feel the contractions but I could feel the pressure build, and hear his heart rate drop on the monitor - this was my indication to push.
The nurse was amazing [shout out to kelly for calling in to put her with me]
She gave me just the right kind + amount of encouragement. She was on my right holding my leg, and Jordan was on my left. The 2 midwives and the OB were at the end of the table waiting to catch Logan.
After about 45 minutes of pushing, there was a brief period during a contraction where Logan's heart rate dropped dangerously low - "you have to push hard, alli!" my midwife said "or else we'll have to do an episiotomy.....!"
Well, that was enough for me! With one a huge p u s h with everything I had, I felt Logan's head POP through, and with one more push the OB pulled him earth-side. Logan gave two quiet cries to announce his arrival and within seconds he was lying on my chest seemingly so content.
How do you even describe what it's like to meet your baby for the first time?
I still haven't found the words.
All I can remember saying is "hi baby! hi baby!" and Jordan remembers looking at him and saying to me "he's perfect."
Time stood still as Logan lay on my chest.
Jordan cut the cord, and then we waited for the placenta to come.
The OB has theorized that there was something wrong with mine due to his lack of growth over the final 6 weeks of my pregnancy. When it came, I had Jordan take pictures of it [the report showed that nothing was wrong with the placenta, but it was small].
The routine measurements occurred, and within the next 90 minutes they had brought a wheel chair into the room to bring me to our private room where we would stay for the next 36 hours.
pre-baby plan: blog about baby + me weekly
post baby plan: get the blog up 9 weeks later...
When Jordan and I woke up on Monday, January 29, we had no idea that had been our final sleep as a family of 2. We took our dog for a walk and decided jokingly it was about time we got the car seat installed since I was due in 2 weeks. It was 11am when we finally got back into the house and I saw that I had a missed call from my midwife with the results of my recent ultrasound,
“Baby hasn’t grown much and we’d like you to go to the hospital to see the OB.
Pack your bags, as we may have to induce you.”
Not the news we wanted to hear, but we did our best to remain calm as we got everything we thought we needed together, We made quick arrangements for our puppy, and set out for the hospital.
Although small for a full term baby, and not growing in the final weeks like a baby “should,” the anatomy and fluid were normal.
The OB checked me out and reported I was 2cm dilated and 80% effaced. She presented me with an option: go home and wait 1-2 weeks with constant monitoring, or have my water broken manually and get the process started today.
Jordan and I had joked that a Monday would be the ideal day for a birth since it's his shortest day in the clinic - I guess we manifested this! We opted to proceed with breaking my water and started to let family know.
Within 3 hours of seeing the OB, my midwife arrived at the hospital and manually broke my water. Little bit of a pinch but nothing too bad. I wandered around the room, ate some lunch, chatted with Jordan and texted friends for the next 4 hours. Nothing but small cramps starting to happen,.
My birth team was disappointed that I hadn’t dilated further, and we proceeded to the next step — induction with an IV pitocin. I was hooked up on the left with the IV and on the right with a fetal heart monitor. I wasn't going anywhere!
Within 20 minutes, the REAL contractions started. And boy, they came on strong.
I worked to breathe through them, shut my eyes so tight, and took my breath right down to my pelvic floor for a count 1-2-3 and then back out 1-2-3. The contractions went from 20s in duration to a full minute within the hour with just a one minute break in between.
It was horrible.
I thought about how my mom had done this with no epidural, and all of the women I knew who had managed.
The stories of delivering in cars, or on the side of the highway.
Even the nurse said to me “I had 2 without an epidural - so you can do it.”
I was surprised at the self doubt I showed myself here:
“are these nurses judging me that I can’t handle this pain?!”
“am I less of a women for the fact that I am struggling to make it through?”
but the overriding thought was what my friend had told me about her epidural - “it was a dream!”
When I was checked again, after an hour of this 11/10 pain I had still only progressed another cm.
“We won’t see this baby for another 12 hours” quipped the nurse.
12 hours?! I thought. "There’s no way I can manage this for another 12 hours!"
Although I had a rough outline of what I had hoped his birth would look like, I had put flexibility first.
Whatever is safest for baby.
Whatever I’m feeling in the moment.
And in that moment “give me that epidural!”
By 10:30 I was given the epidural — and yes, it was a dream.
My mom stopped by, as did Jordan’s family and I was able to smile and have a real conversation with them.
I progressed quickly and just after midnight the nurse informed me, it’s time to P-U-S-H!
photo: lace photography
Giving birth to Logan is a day that has forever changed me.
But this is not that story.
I shared the picture because how could I NOT show the world his sweet face.
No this story is different....
I was 21 years old, recently graduated from university and unsure of what my next step was. Having recently finished up playing varsity sports at Wilfrid Laureri University and Durham College, I turned to bodybuilding type fitness to fill the competitive void in my life. This led to me spending sometimes up to 4 hours a day at the gym, working on isolation training and cardio with the sole purpose of burning X number of calories.
One day, one of the trainers at the globo gym told me his client had said to him "I want to look like her" pointing at me while I was on the treadmill for session number 2 of the day
he responded "if you want to do that, you'll need to find 4 hours in your day to dedicate to your fitness"
to which his client responded "nevermind."
You see, his client was a 30 year old mother of 2, working full time and was still prioritizing her fitness. However, she didn't have 4 hours/day 7 days a week to spend at the gym.
This feedback struck a nerve.
The professional identity I was trying to create at that point was to be a positive influence in the health and wellness journey of others.
Most people cannot, and should not be spending 4 hours a day in the gym.
To my dismay, I realized the very people I wanted to influence could in no way relate to a 21 year old female who had endless hours a day to spend at the gym.
Training with the sole purpose of looking a certain way was not healthy for me physically or mentally. And it was actually hindering the very career I was wanting to foster.
I had to make a change.
CrossFit truly changed my life.
An amazing workout in 60 minutes or less, that shaped my body, gave me strength I never knew I had, boosted my cardio to levels I never had even as a varsity cross country athlete and most of all - allowed me to stop focusing my workouts solely on aesthetics.
Now, as a new mom I get it even more.
I don't have and I don't ever want to feel the need to dedicate my life towards my looks. Working out with an aesthetic goal in mind is totally OK, but it will never again be the sole purpose I get out of bed in the morning.
Right now, I have to try really hard just to carve out 20 minutes for me a day.
I felt like the most badass mom ever this week when I got my 3-week old baby into the stroller and my puppy hooked up to the leash and made it around my 800m block for a walk.
I have created a post partum fitness series to give mom's a place where they can work on their fitness post baby, in a supportive environment that isn't just focusing on lbs lost. Of course, we want to feel good in our skin, give our unused wardrobe the attention it deserves but it cannot be the only reason we prioritize fitness in our busy lives.
We train to build a strong pelvic floor, so we aren't peeing while be laugh for the rest of our lives.
We come together and train so we can spend time swapping stories, or learning how other momma's are coping with aspects of their child's development.
We train in a place where we can bring our babies because otherwise, there's just no chance we could make it out of the house for fitness.
We train because showing our little one's the important of self care and momma strength is so important.
I hope you'll join me.
hey there mama,
It may have felt like the day would never come, but you've finally got the all clear from your health care provider and you're ready to start exercising again. But now what?
Where can you go with baby in tow?
What is the safest, most effective way to gain strength, stamina, endurance and perhaps shed a few lbs?
Even with a smooth delivery, it's important we spend time on the basics of working out
before diving back to 100% intensity. Even if you were in the best shape of your life just a year ago,
it's important to take this time to connect with your postpartum body.
let's do it together
monday + wednesday
starts monday march 5
bring baby with you & connect with other moms through health & fitness
post partum is forever, but moms who have had babies in the last 20 weeks will benefit most from this fitness series..
We held our co-ed baby shower this past weekend, and I am overwhelmed at how well-dressed, well-exercised and well-educated baby winberg is going to be!
The sunday afternoon event was held at our house but hosted by my mom and sister. I dressed up for what felt like the first time in years!
One of the gifts got me thinking about being proactive - ANCHOR homeopath Aimee Marples gifted me muffins to freeze and have on hold for once the baby is born. Genius! I since kicked it into pre-baking and freezing mode.
Here is an awesome recipe I found, made and have since frozen (and yes....already eaten a number of....)
DOUBLE CHOCOLATE ZUCCHINI MUFFINS
(recipe and photo from www.acalculatedwhisk.com)
In a time when so much is unknown, at least I'll have some good food on hand for myself and to pack for lunches for Jordan as he takes on both of my chiropractic practises.
- Dr. Cain
online diary of my pregnancy originally written from November until now
I am living and I am growing another life.
It is incredibly important to have support throughout this process.
Chiropractic has been an important part of my support team throughout my pregnancy. I've experienced so much structural change to my body, and my biomechanics have altered greatly. Without adjustments I don't think I would have been able to continue working at the rate that I have been - I just finished my busiest month ever in practice!
I'm down to just two pairs of lululemons that fit but I'm still holding out on not buying maternity clothes (ok, I was gifted a pair of maternity jeans by my husband because he couldn't deal with this "goal" of mine).
This part of my pregnancy has been a challenge in a different way. The first 4 months were dealing with the extreme fatigue and the mental changes of an identity shift. Months 5-6-7 featured a much-welcomed boost in energy, but daily changes to my body, my nutrition, my fitness and some back and hip pain. Now, as my belly has grown quite a bit I've been challenged with pregnancy-induced rhinitis, shortness of breath as well as the extremity swelling I've heard so much about. Pregnancy-induced rhinitis I've been trying all sorts of natural remedies like a saline spray, nasal strips and homeopathic remedies - but the biggest help with the rhinitis has been getting adjusted regularly.
How I'm feeling //
A little frustrated with sounding sick when I feel otherwise fine.
More and more tired as the days pass by and I continue to grow.
Ready to get our house ready for baby (stay tuned for reno picks!)
Advice I've received//
I had a wonderful phone call with a chiropractic colleague of mine in Maple Ridge, BC, Zehra Gajic who has a special interest in pediatric, pregnancy, birth, and post-partum care. She owns a clinic where she works alongside a team of doulas + midwives + RMTs to give women the support they need during this time, and to empower them with education. She was a wealth of knowledge, and offered me advice in a multitude of areas relating to birth.
Breastfeeding can be extremely difficult - what to expect and what services are available should I need extra support.
Changes I've made//
I am wearing compression socks often to help with the ankle and foot swelling - a gift from my husband that has made a big difference in decreasing my end-of-day soreness.
Just this week, I've reduced my coaching schedule and reduced my chiropractic schedule to ensure I keep my energy high.
How I'm eating//
A regular appetite, finally!
- Dr. Cain
WHAT NEW BELIEF, BEHAVIOURS, OR HABITS, ADOPTED WITHIN THE LAST 5 YEARS, HAVE MOST POSITIVELY IMPACTED YOUR LIFE?
I was as guilty as the next person for only being half-there in conversations I was having. Now, I put the phone down and work to engage fully with the person(s) in front of me.
This has allowed me to have some of the best conversations that I may have otherwise missed out upon.
PURCHASES OF LESS THAN $100 THAT HAVE MOST IMPROVED YOUR LIFE?
YogaToes - I wear these daily for 45 minutes after a long day of being squeezed into shoes.
WHAT WOULD YOU PUT ON A BILLBOARD?
A slogan at ANCHOR. Far too often we sell ourselves short, I truly believe that if you want to do something, you can do it so long as you show up for yourself.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE FAILURE?
Enrolling in a sport business management program graduate degree after I graduated from university and subsequently quitting the associated internship 2 months early. This program led me to realize I did not want to be in the corporate world, and it was during this time I discovered chiropractic and knew that was my calling. Although I pride myself in my follow-through, this job was leading me away from what my heart desired, so I quit. When disappointed at myself for my 'failure' my dad pointed out to me that it's as important to discover what you don't want as much as what you do want.
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU FEEL UNFOCUSED OR OVERWHELMED?
I rarely feel unfocused, but I can get easily overwhelmed. When this happens, I make time in my day to write or journal. I do a huge brain dump and I find clarity in this.
WHAT BOOKS HAVE YOU GIFTED THE MOST TO OTHER PEOPLE?
How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. I re-read this book yearly and regularly reference or refer people to read.
HOW DO YOU ASK BETTER QUESTIONS?
I try to understand the type of learner or thinker of whom I am asking the question of. I regularly try putting yourself in the shoes of the other person. What would elicit the best response?
WHAT HAVE YOU BECOME BETTER AT SAYING “NO” TO, AND WHAT APPROACHES HAVE WORKED FOR YOU?
I say no to things that don't support my health, happiness or definition of success.
Know your core values.
Visualize how you would feel if you said yes.
Trust your gut.
WHAT IS ONE OF THE MOST WORTHWHILE INVESTMENTS YOU’VE EVER MADE?
My chiropractic education. While at the time, the 4-year and $150k (more than that if you consider 4 years of lost income) was very overwhelming-- I now have complete control over how I spend my time, complete control over my financial future and I have the opportunity to be active and work with people. I also have the opportunity to go into any subset of chiropractic I feel compelled to-- athletics, family care, pregnancy, prenatal, coaching -- even the business side. Having freedom of choice is the greatest gift I gave myself when I began chiropractic in 2011.
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU SHOULD WRITE A BOOK?
If you feel compelled to do so, you should write it! I wrote my first e-book last year -- mindshift macros because I felt like I had something important and useful to share with the world, and that would impact the health of others.
WHAT ARE SOME UNUSUAL HABITS YOU HAVE?
I wait until my gas tank is on E until I fill up.
I've made the same "wish" at 11:11 since I was 14.
As a medical professional with a profound interest in nutrition and a baby on the way, I was excited to receive this book for Christmas from my mother-in-law. I dove into it right away!
Right from the start, I knew this book was going to be a great resource for me, and become a recommendation to patients and friends who are expecting and/or have young children.
Babies don’t do much besides eat, sleep & poop. So, in order to know as much as possible about how baby is feeling we need to look at how they perform these 3 things. Digestion is a complicated process, and one of the leading causes of pediatrician visits. Looking out for number two is an extremely well-written book taking an evidence based approach to how to set your baby's gut up for success - all in a non-shaming, guilt-free way. The author, paediatric gastroenterologist Dr. Bryan Vartabedian tackles hot button items such as the microbiome, breastfeeding, formula, allergy development, immune system and more in a way that makes you feel informed to make the best decision for you + your baby + how your birth and the early months and years unfold.
Here is an excerpt from the book about some things to keep in mind about just how important the intestinal tract of your baby is:
1. It’s the ultimate source of nutrition. That is . . . after the placenta. Before birth the placenta gives your baby all the nutrients she needs. After delivery, the gut takes center stage to replace what your placenta was doing.
2. It’s part of the immune system. The gut plays a key role in the development of a healthy immune system. In fact, most of a baby’s immune cells are in her intestines.
3. It’s a hormone factory. It may sound surprising, but the process of digestion is under heavy hormonal control. Depending on what your baby eats, the tummy hormones released will vary. Gut hormones shape things like hunger, fullness, and how hard the gallbladder squeezes.
4. It holds on to fluids and minerals. The intestines are key to holding on to liquid to meet a baby’s basic fluid needs.
5. It’s home to the microbiome. As we’ll learn, the bugs found within the intestinal tract play a key role in helping a baby adapt to a world full of foreign things.
6. It has its own brain. There may be some truth to the accusation of having your brains in your arse. The intestines are home to a vast network of nerves rivaling those found in even the spinal cord. This enteric brain, as it’s called, is critical to digestion and the elimination of the stuff we don’t need.
7. It’s a work in progress. Your baby’s gut goes through several months of growth and development as it adjusts to the new outside world and all its nutrients.
[source: Dr. Bryan Vartabedian's looking out for number two: a slightly irreverent guide to poo, gas and other things that come out of your baby]
This book enables all parents to be equipped with the science + tools you need to make important decisions for your baby.
I recommend this book to all expecting parents or parents of young children.
- Dr. Alli Cain