"It’s not the critic who counts. It’s not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled. Credit belongs to the man who really was in the arena, his face marred by dust, sweat, and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs to come short and short again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming. It is the man who actually strives to do the deeds, who knows the great enthusiasm and knows the great devotion, who spends himself on a worthy cause, who at best, knows in the end the triumph of great achievement. And, who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and cruel souls who know neither victory nor defeat"
I had a fantastic yoga practise last night led by my friend Shannon Hastings at Citizen Yoga in Newmarket. At the beginning & end of her yoga classes, I always think to myself "how does she put my thoughts so eloquently into words?"
Last night Shannon talked about being vulnerable.
I have never thought about this word before. It was on my mind all night and many more emotions, feelings and thought came out as I explored why this word had resonated with me.
I hear the words "intimidated" or "scared" when others express their interest in joining CrossFit, or nutrition programming - but why they haven't yet.
I have many friends who have been part of my life for years, that know I run a CrossFit gym & work with people on their nutrition and health. These friends show lots of interest, and ask countless questions, but all while standing a safe distance away from it all - this choice no doubt to insure they won't fail or show up and not be the best. I hear things like "I'll join once I get in shape" or "I'm waiting for life to settle down."
I used to think they were intimidated or just did not understand, but last night, I realized they are simply just not ready to let themselves be vulnerable.
When we reach out for help, show up somewhere new or put ourselves in a situation we've never been in before, we are immediately vulnerable.
- we are showing other people what we don't know
- we worry others are going to experience us failing
- we are aware we may be pushed to physical and mental limits and even we don't know what that looks like
- we expose our work ethic
Until last night, I had never thought about vulnerability beside a synonym for intimidated or scared.
I wanted to write this blog to reach out to people who may be using "intimidated" or "scared" as a reason from holding back from something they want to do. I urge you to change your vocabulary and realize that being uncomfortable in a new situation is a totally, normal, human experience - and that often working through something that makes us uncomfortable leads us to being better people.
"Out of your vulnerabilities, come your strengths"
Being vulnerable is not about showing all the parts of you that you excel at,
Vulnerability takes practise. You don't just do it once and then all of a sudden you're down to do everything new! You're great at everything! You will be provided opportunity after opportunity to make a conscious choice to choose openness, to choose the potential to fail --- and to grow immeasurably from it.
For those experiencing vulnerability, and worried about failure & judgement.... you need to find a safe space for growth. I'd like to think that we do a fantastic job both at CrossFit Groundworx & with nutrition coaching of providing this safe space.
Taking a risk & doing something to better yourself is never a bad thing.
To being vulnerable.
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